A thin line
I don't know why but I was talking about my first boyfriend just now. About how he was totally possessive. He learned not to be so in his next relationship -- he trusted his galfriend, gave her complete freedom and such but it didn't work out anyway. She went back to her ex. There is just so much one should be possesive about, and just so much 'freedom' one can give. Its a fine line, a complex balance. Too much possessiveness suffocates the relationship. Giving complete 'freedom' could simply feel as if one doesn't care. Truly if one cares, there is not such thing as not interested in what your partner is up to in the name of giving him/her freedom.My sister doesn't seem to care about her kids. Today they were sitting for the RAD exams, and their skirts were not ironed. shoes were not cleaned etc. She simply told me that she wants her kids to learn to iron her own stuff. That they should learn to be independent. Yet i feel that when you let kids do whatever they like without a certain amount of guidance, the screw up. One should be concerend enough yet give their kids some autonomy to learn "independence"
But that is such a fine line again.
posted by eline @ 2:00 AM
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