grass is always greener... (again)
another happily married couple. May they live happily ever after!A friend just got married yesterday. And as usual, each time i attend someone's wedding, there is the "hmm... why am i not getting married? maybe i should".
Then today, a few of us met up for dinner with the newly weds. There is the usual talk of how they met and fell in love. and what they have learned, how to accommodate etc.
She says -- sometimes i really miss being single. When my time is really my time, and i can do whatever i want with it. Being married means that your time isn't really yours anymore.
She looks at me.
i look at her. a little startled.
i say -- well don't look at me, maybe thats why i am not married...
then, the right thing to say, i hope, which i did was... well if you were single, u will wish that its nice to have someone in your life. After all the grass is always greener on the other side.
Thats the best i could offer.
Its sweet when she talks about their love. And its always the -- i feel like i can be myself with him, he knows how to calm me down, we can spend the whole day together doing nothing and we don't get bored, i use to want everything, but now i can give up the entire forest just for him.
And i can feel that silent round of approval from the table. the unanimous 'oh they are so in love, so meant for each other' vibe.
it takes 2 hands to clap. and i have come to realize that it isn't just about liking someone. its more to do with the timing. When you like someone, the feeling has to be mutual during this window period of "liking". If love is requited after this window period, its as good as nothing.
Its hard enough to find someone to like. The odds are greater when it has to be mutual, within a given time frame.
The groom told me that i have set my standards too high. Hmm.. really? I am not aware of that, and i don't know if its something that can be changed.
on a completely different note, i just bought a few carebear towels!! very happy with them. I need only 1 but because i could not decide (friendship bear? luv-a-lot? white? pink? blue?), i bought a few instead. How typical!!
posted by eline @ 11:04 PM
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